Respect, ya Gotta Earn it

Coming from an Asian family, I understand what respect is and that I should respect my elders. Although through the years, I kind of turned a bit on the rules made for me and created my own. I would respect my elders, but unless they disrespect me, why the hell should I? I don’t see the point of showing them respect if they don’t for me. Maybe I got to earn it. Then again, they haven’t earn my respect. This is something of a big deal for me, you see.

Well, before I get into this, I got to tell a little story about today. I went to church (great starter, I know) and when it was time for the bread line (I call it that instead of the Eucharist), I saw this boy who went to grab the walker beside some statues. He was getting it for his grandma, who appeared to be unable to walk five steps without it. After that, he walked in front of her to make sure that nobody was going to get in her way. That warms my heart. I like it when I see little kids helping out their grandparents. It’s just something that lightens up my mood. That mood was utterly ruined when two girls walked passed her and cut her in line. They were lucky we were at church, else I’d punch them in their faces. Anyways, the funny part was towards the end. The little boy thought that his grandma already went out (which she couldn’t) so he hurried to the outside. His grandma then was confused about where her walker is. I was all like, “Noo! Little boy, come back!” in my head. Hopefully they reunited.

Back to where I was.

I hate teen movies. Mostly because the only ones I’ve seen involved a teenager disrespecting their parents. Obviously they don’t understand that their parents are the one that puts a roof under their head, feed them, and do all sorts of other things. The thing I’m talking to only refer to the parents that are actually trying to cooperate with their children. If your parents doesn’t respect you, you shouldn’t have the need to respect them. I’m all about being nice to my elders, but only when they’re being nice to me. So if your mom is a druggie and she yells at you to get her a beer, go ahead and punch her in the face and say, “No!” but be careful. She might smash another bottle on you and that one might cut your pretty face. And also they might throw you outside. So be careful.

Anyways, back to the parents who are respecting their children but their children is not giving the same attitude back. Are they stupid or something? Wait, they are. “You just don’t understand me!” – says the person who won’t let people get to know them. Seriously?

I’m going to go away from that topic and let’s get back to church. So I’m in confirmation class (even though I don’t want to be). Catholics have way too many rites I have to go through. And they cost money? What? Hell no! But my parents already paid so I might as well attend. I was in the first year last year and we had a retreat. It wasn’t much of a retreat since the place we went to was the gym of the school. They practically trapped us there by two reasons: One, our parents would be mad; two, they got our phones. It was eight hours long. I thought, “If I can’t escape, I might as well have fun.” And I did. It was a pretty fun time, I supposed. I met people whom I’ll never meet again, which is always fun. Unless you’re from the same school, then you just awkwardly say hi to each other.

During retreat, we had a total of three speakers. You know, people who come in to talk about stuff. The first one was nice because it was about bullying and such. The second was the one that went downhill and was just utterly stupid. This had to do with gender roles and I never liked this topic. I can’t remember what she was speaking about because I didn’t care, but this one phrase she uttered that is now in my mind forever. She said, “It’s a man’s job to respect women, and it’s a woman’s job to expect the respect.” – … what?

Taking this literally: If it’s a man’s job to respect women, they wouldn’t need to have all these other jobs like a doctor or engineer. Why would the woman just sit there and expect the respect? Why? How about you go out there and earn it? Also, if it’s a man’s job, is he supposed to go ahead and respect the crackwhores or the really bitchy girls? If the woman is just expecting the respect, does that mean she doesn’t have to respect men? I think respect is something you earn, not expect. You got to earn their respect as much as them having to earn your respect. How is this woman–the speaker–attending a university? I don’t understand. She was lucky this was in church ground, else I’d punch her in the face.

Hey, even if I’m not a religious person and I prefer not going to church, at least I respect the rules of being in church.

Also, I’m getting a vlog of this out later.